Many black South Africans continue to abuse themselves subscribing to unfounded notions that ‘a black man’s loyalty is to a black woman’.
Interracial marriages in the post-democratic era are still frowned up and those in such as unions are forever at the receiving end of insults and dehumanisation.
Springbok World Cup-winning captain Siya Kolisi and his wife Rachel have for years been at the receiving end of abuse from both the white and black communities.
25 years of our ‘integration’ as South Africans, interracial marriages are still a major issue to many South Africans of all races.
For many black communities, a man who goes on to marry a woman outside of his race is at worst considered a sell-out or a traitor by many black women.
The belief is that a black man should marry a black woman to prove that he is a ‘proud black man’ and his ‘identity’ as a black man is not in question.
For the so-called ‘progressive and woke’ black South Africans, a man black who marries a white woman apparently exposes his ‘ identity crisis’.
For years I have been subscribing to these unfounded notions and I have come to realize that, this is slavery of its own kind.
No black man owes his loyalty to any black woman and the same goes for a black woman.
Black woman and man should be allowed to love whomever they like without their identity or their man/womanhood coming into question.
Society, and that goes to every race groups, should really denounce the notions that this generation of ‘free’ adults should only be limited to marry their own racial groups.
A black man should be allowed to marry any woman of her liking, without the fear of being called by names.
Young people should never be limited to only love people around them or who look like them.
We are a society that is constantly growing and integrating at a very fast pace.
As such, people are bound to fall in love with people who happened to be in the same vicinity as them.
Black, Indians, Coloureds and whites should never be judged for falling in love with people from other race groups.
The hate we keep spewing to interracial marriages need to come to an end and we should understand that people fall in love with those they like and love.
The black community is the one group that continue to use any means necessary to block such unions.
No colour and religion should be used as a deterrent for one person to marry the other.
If a black man decides to marry a white lady, he should never be chastised for making that decision.
Siya and Rachel, Mmusi and Natalie and many other interracial couples should never be attacked for celebrating their love beyond their races.
EFF’s Mbuyiseni Ndlozi was right that sport will never be an effective tool for racial unity.
However, interracial marriages are a good conduit to promote racial unity, because when a man marries a woman, he is not only marrying her alone but also the rest of her family and community.